Personal coaching for men
More connection in your relationship. More confidence in your direction. More creativity, curiosity, and inspiration in the way you live.
Coaching for men who are ready to understand what is no longer working and create a more conscious way forward.
What brings men here
Men arrive at this work for different reasons. These are three of the most common places we begin.
01 / Relationship
The emotional or sexual connection has faded, conversations turn defensive, and your partner may experience you differently than you intend. Coaching helps you understand what is happening beneath the interaction and change how you show up—without losing yourself.
02 / Direction
You know the current situation cannot continue, but the next move is unclear. Coaching helps you identify what matters now, choose a meaningful step, and build momentum through practical change.
03 / Creativity
Your life may be functioning, but curiosity, creativity, and inspiration have faded. Coaching helps you see your life from a different angle and imagine possibilities beyond the patterns and solutions you already know.
The common thread
You have become disconnected from what is true and alive within you. This work helps you hear it again—and build a life from there.
Men’s experiences
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Coaching, creativity & trust
“I’ve been fortunate to know Bentley as a dear coach and friend and to take part in the men’s groups and retreats he’s led. His creative exercises were thoughtful, powerful, and deeply meaningful. Bentley has a remarkable ability to be creative both as an artist and in business, bringing imagination, insight, and fresh perspective to everything he does. He has a special gift for seeing people as they are and bringing out their best, whether in business or one-on-one coaching. His warmth, integrity, and genuine care make it easy to trust him and grow.”
Sean D. Leit, MS, PhD
Leadership & trust
“I met Bentley on a men’s retreat. I remember feeling so comfortable watching him talk and delivering messages to other men. I knew I wanted to know him. Over my course of knowing him, I’ve watched him grow, I’ve watched him lead. Time and time again, he would unknowingly put on a clinic on how to show up. He would stand in the fire with you when something needed to be handled, when it was uncomfortable, he would show up.
I’d grown to love him and look forward to seeing him, because he was and is a man I KNEW I could trust. Until you meet men like him, you kinda don’t realize that you can’t fully trust most people around you. Not because they’re bad people, but just because they’re not conscious. They’re not putting in the work to better themselves and say the hard thing to a guy.”
Ben Shani
Mentorship & transformation
“For over 13 years, Bentley has been a powerful guiding light in my life, serving as both a close friend as well as an invaluable mentor. His commitment to fostering a space of openness and honesty has encouraged me to be vulnerable and speak my truth, thus transforming both my relationships with others and with myself.
To say this man is incredibly important in my life and my development as a man, is the gravest of understatements. I will always be grateful for his unwavering support, his deep sense of caring and devotion, and his determination to elevate everyone around him.”
Dan Spark
Men’s group experience
“Bentley created a space where I could grow and look inward. From my time in the men’s group, I felt a genuine bond with the other men—a place where I could be honest about what I was going through without feeling judged. At the same time, I was held accountable, and that combination of support and honesty made a real difference.
I hadn’t realized how valuable it could be to pause, reflect on my life, and hear from men who had been through similar experiences. The trust we built allowed me to open up and feel connected. That’s what made this group so special to me.”
Drew
A different kind of room
How coaching works
The work is not linear. What happens in your real life gives us new information, which we bring back into coaching and use to move forward with greater awareness.
We begin with an honest look at your life—what matters to you, what is working, and what isn’t. This gives us a clear starting point and shows us where change could have the greatest impact.
You learn to move out of constant analysis, notice what your body and emotions are telling you, and put that truth into words. You also learn when a situation calls for direction and decisive action—and when it calls for openness, listening, and connection.
We bring the work into the conversations, conflicts, relationships, and decisions happening now. You practice aligning what you feel with what you say and do, then we look honestly at what worked and what didn’t.
Then we return to the beginning. Each experience reveals something new. We adjust, practice again, and build lasting change through small, meaningful successes.
Ways to work together
Different rooms. The same commitment to honesty, responsibility, and meaningful change.
01 / Private
Private sessions are available online or in Calabasas. Begin with a 30-minute conversation about what you want to change. If the fit is right, we agree on a consistent rhythm shaped around your life, relationships, and goals.
Discuss private coaching02 / In community
The Edge is a six-month men’s group co-facilitated by Bentley and Matt. The January 2027 cohort is built around trust, confidentiality, honest communication, and consistent accountability. The waitlist includes a thoughtful readiness questionnaire so the facilitators can understand your goals and ability to commit.
Join the January 2027 group waitlist03 / Immersive
Step away from the noise of ordinary life and give the deeper work your full attention. Join the interest list to hear about future men’s retreats, couples or relationship intensives, and individual intensive work.
Join the retreat interest list
About Bentley
For more than twenty years, I’ve been immersed in men’s work—first as a participant, then as a mentor and group leader, and for the past seven years as a retreat facilitator. Real change began for me when I learned to stop trying to figure everything out in my head and move into my heart, where I could connect with what was actually true for me. I’ve learned to measure progress through small, meaningful successes. Each honest choice builds on the one before it.
Before making coaching the center of my work, I spent decades building and leading businesses in real estate development and private lending. That life sharpened my business instincts and taught me how to celebrate the wins, recover from the losses, and keep moving through uncertainty. It also showed me that external success can still feel empty when your inner life is out of alignment.
My training includes a bachelor’s degree in fine art from UCLA and a master’s degree in Spiritual Psychology from the University of Santa Monica. I spent five years volunteering in a counseling role at Southern California Counseling Center and also worked with Clean Slate, supporting men as they rebuilt their lives. I’m a painter as well, and I taught oil painting for eight years. Creativity remains fundamental to my approach because meaningful change asks us to see familiar problems from a different angle.
Today, I bring those worlds together—business experience, leadership, creativity, emotional honesty, and practical action—to help men turn insight into a life aligned with who they are and the purpose they feel called to live.
What can change
Let purpose and passion align.
The first step
No pitch. No performance. Just a chance to talk about where you are, what you want to change, and whether working together feels right.
I’m ready to create change